Friday, 7 August 2015

Three Whole Years

Somehow it’s that time of year again – that’s right, my anniversary with Joe. Today marks our third wedding anniversary, and I honestly can’t believe it. Some days it feels like we’ve been married forever, but in a really nice ‘I’m so glad you know all of my weird stuff and still love me’ kind of way, and some days I can’t believe we upped sticks and started this life together in Somerset. I’ve had our evening planned for quite a while, so I’m really excited to see Joe’s reaction to it – tell you soon, promise – as he’s usually much better at this sort of thing than I am. 

Anyhoo, I don’t want to bore you too much with cryptic talk of anniversaries and such, but I know Joe sometimes reads my blog, so here’s three things being married to Joe has taught me. 

He puts up with me 
Joe puts up with a lot of crap from me, let’s be honest. I’m a lousy at tidying, I can’t really cook and I’d spend our rent money on books if given half a chance. But Joe’s great, and not only does he put up with all of that but he also once picked me up at 2am from Exeter train station after I fell asleep on the last train home. When he was on a breakfast shift the next day. If that’s not love, I don’t know what is. 

He’s an excellent cheerleader 
Okay, so he hasn’t picked up any pompoms (as far as I’m aware) but Joe is one of the best people to have on your side when you need a bit of a boost. Essentially throughout my entire last year of university, Joe was there to check my work and tell me what worked, as well as what might need changing. When I felt like my interviews were going badly, he’d point out what I had going for me, and why I’m actually quite hireable. If a bake goes wrong, as they sometimes do, he encourages me to try again and reminds me of all the excellent things I’ve baked before.  

Marriage is about having different views on the same end goal 
Possibly the most serious point in this post. Marriage isn’t just about living in the moment and having a gay old time, but rather about putting the work in and ensuring you’re being a good spouse. And by that I don’t mean cleaning or cooking, obvs, but being there for your partner when they most need you to. As an example, Joe and I have the same end goal (I think) of moving back up North and not paying more than £4 for a pint at any given time, but we have different views on how to get there. But that’s a good thing, as it means Joe has often considered things I’ve not even thought of, and vice versa. By considering the many options, it helps you to decide what is really the best way for you both. Some people think compromising is a bad thing, but I think it shows you’re open to new things and willing to hear the opinions of others, which can only be good skills to have in a marriage, right? 

So that's just my two cents on it! Happy anniversary to us! 

Chelsea xo

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