Friday, 24 July 2015

Picking Yourself Up

Sometimes you can't seem to shake off a bad feeling. Whether you've had some bad news, an irritating commute or spilt coffee all over your shirt - it just feels like you can't catch a break. Although I like to give off a cheery disposition, I'm actually quite pessimistic. Luckily I can pass this off as Northern cynicism or just being down to my dry sense of wit, but I've been working on ways to pick myself up if I'm feeling more like Eeyore than usual. 

Put on your favourite album and have a dance around 
Okay, so if you're anything like me it might be difficult to even pick a favourite album, but for dancing around I like listening to Everything Everything or Hot Chip. They both have newish albums out, and whatdyaknow, I love them both! Dancing around is scientifically proven* to life your mood and make you feel better about everything, so this should be your first port of call. 


Put on a sad film and have a cry
This one is the complete opposite of my first suggestion but some days you just need to cry. Whether it's the first 10 minutes of Up on repeat or a classic tear-jerker like Stepmom it's good to just let it all out. I find that if I do a mammoth cry, then it can clear my head and I get into that 'things can only get better' mentality.

Talk to your friends/loved ones
In some situations you might not feel able to talk about it, but that doesn't mean you can't talk about other things! I can quite easily put "today is crap!" into a whatsapp group and end up with a bunch of moral support and maybe a funny story or two. Even talking about something else entirely can help, as it can sort of bring you back into the 'now' rather than staying in the #sadtimes.

Have a pamper
It sounds self-indulgent, but if you're having a rough day then a nice relaxing bath, with your face mask on followed by painting your nails might be just the ticket. Or if you've got a hectic life like me, even 10 minutes reading a book with a ridiculously flourished hot chocolate could do the trick. 

Write down 5 things that make you happy
Well, you might have shrank your favourite sweater in the wash, but you've got your health. Just acknowledging a little thing like 'the creepy guy wasn't on my bus' or 'my kid went to sleep with only one bedtime story' could make the difference. This really helps putting things in perspective and helps you to realise that you don't need to have a 100% perfect day for it to have been good. 

Treat yo' self
This might sound a bit like the 'have a pamper,' suggestion but what if you don't have any pampering goodies, ey? I wouldn't recommend treating yo' self too excessively - we're not trying to buy off your emotions, more like perk them up a little - so be careful not too buy yourself something you can't afford or will later regret. Everything in moderation, and if you need a limit, stick to it! You need to be careful that you don't associate sadness with retail therapy as that can lead to all sorts of money woes, which will add to the sadness and then result in retail therapy... Bills and food come first, people! However if you fancy trying a new bath bomb or enjoy having your nails done by a professional every once in a while then treat yo' self! 

Hug something
Arguably the most important thing on this list, have a hug. Be it a stuffed animal, your partner or pet, having a good ol' snuggle can give you the comfort you need. You might not realise it but you could make their day too! Monty is always hovering around me for a cuddle at the end of the day, and although I mumble and groan about having him on the sofa, sometimes it's just nice to have him nudging my arm and letting me know that he freakin' loves me. Joe and Dylan give some good cuddles too, but yeah. 

So there we have it! Just a few suggestions of how to pull yourself back around. If you're feeling down on a regular basis or think you might need more than a bubble bath to turn things around, then please talk to someone who can help - such as a loved one or Samaritans. Sharing your worries can often make a world of difference, and all sorts of help can be provided if you need it. <3

Chelsea xo

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