Monday, 19 August 2013

Why being a feminist matters to me.

I know a lot of people might not read this due to the title. A lot of people seem to be afraid of calling themselves a feminist, and also scared of being one. I want to write this to set the record straight over the myths of feminism and hopefully encourage a few people to bring back girl power!

Feminists are all lesbians who hate men
Excuse me? All sorts of people can be feminists - even men, so to say that feminists are solely man-hating lesbians is so silly. I think a lot of people have an image of feminism which probably dates back to the 60s/70s when pretty much everyone wanted 'free love' and peace, dude. I'm sure a lot of women probably did burn their bras - hell, after a long day I feel like doing it too, but it's such a dated misconception about women, let alone feminists.

The lovely Bill Bailey. Taken from here.
Women can't be feminine and feminist at the same time
Says who? The whole idea around feminism is that women have a choice in all aspects of life. If you want to wear make up and skirts, do it. If you want to shave half your hair off and get tattoos, do it. If you don't, then don't. Another thing people think about feminists is that they don't 'maintain' their body hair. Again, this is the choice of the individual. If you feel better free of fluff, then go for it. If you'd rather just wear tights for another day then hack your legs with razors, that's also cool. 

Women are equal now - there is no need for feminism
This is just utter bullshit. I'm sorry, but it's true. As a 21 year old female, I am in no way equal to a 21 year old male. Freshers weeks and other 'organised' student parties all tend to have themes. Pimps and hoes, beach parties - where the boys can wear a Hawaiian shirt yet the girls have to wear bikinis and so many other variations where the girls are asked to dress as slutty schoolgirls/cavewomen/golfers. Another event, a bingo style drinking game, asked for men to get the numbers of as many girls as possible. The female equivalent to this? See how many guys you can get to 'motorboat' your breasts. 
Of course this doesn't go for every uni thing or night out, but that's just the start of it. Can you go to a bar or even walk by those cliche builders without having someone comment on your outfit? In a world where judges would rather call rape victims as 'provocative' dressers rather than properly punish the rapist, then I am sorry but we are not equal. Where women cannot wear trousers in foreign countries without worrying that they might have acid thrown in their face - that ain't equal. 

Feminists think men are disposable 
This is another silly myth. I do not know any sane woman who would prefer a life without men. Sure, we wouldn't have to endure so much sport and car insurance would be a bit lower, but every woman - feminist or not - needs a man in her life. Feminists do not want to remove the male role from society, they just want to ensure that women have the same rights and opportunities. So many businesses are dominated by men, in a work force of 80 people, as little as 12 of them could be women. We're a whopping 52% of the population, and yet we're less than 10% of the office? Get real. 

Now, enough of the myth busting for now. I thought I might as well explain myself and why I think I am a feminist. If you know me, you will know that I love baking. I would give my right arm to own a pistachio kitchenaid and I can't wait to have my own house and have a cute country kitchen. You might think that this is going against feminism, but it is my choice. I chose to go to university, but I also chose to have a family. You might have chose not to go to university, and that doesn't make you less of a feminist. You might choose to travel the world, and that is your choice. The fact that women are able to go to university, and travel, and work is all thanks to feminism. If feminism were to be smothered by the current economic and political landscapes, then I would seriously worry.  

I would love to hear from you all and your thoughts on this. Hopefully I've been helpful and not a hinderance to the whole cause of feminism! 


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13 comments

  1. Thankyou!!! This post talked about so many issues I wish more people were aware of. A quick scroll down the 'Everyday Sexism' twitter page and I think it's pretty clear why feminism matters so much.

    Sinéad | ♥ fabuleuse, toujours ♥

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    1. I couldn't agree more, it's ridiculous how 'natural' sexism is to some people!
      Thanks so much for commenting, Sinéad
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  2. This is such a great post! It's true, sexism is seen as "natural" to so many people, it's hardly even regarded as an issue anymore!

    AddictedtoOPI

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  3. I absolutely love this post! All you have to do is follow the Everyday Sexism campaign to see how women are clearly still not treated equally in society, it's 2013 but some of the comments I see it's like we are in the 40s. I HATE fancy dress parties purely because the costumes for women are just totally sexualised 90% of the time, I'd rather wear something funny and have a bit of a joke but would feel totally judged. I'd rather not go! In workplaces as well women definitely aren't seen as equals, I'll be going into a science career after university and I do EXPECT to be treat equally, but honestly don't think I will be. How sad is that?

    Yeah, I feel quite strongly about this haha. Great post!
    Hannah x
    hannahhepton.com

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    1. I could have wrote so much more but I was a bit conscious of boring people! I'm glad you feel strongly about it, though :)
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  4. such a great post, i think there is a stereotypical view of feminists, like here we go... with your female rants! All the above things, are exactly what springs to mind for some people. I would love to read more about this from you, educate me!

    http://kimiandme.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Thanks Christina, I'm glad you enjoyed this, I was worried I might scare people off! When I get my book published, I'll let you know ;)
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  5. Great post! People have an idea in their heads about what a feminist looks like and act like but the fact is that most of the people I know, men included, are feminists - they just don't realise it! They all believe in equality but they don't realise they are feminist - the word has such negative connotations which is a shame. It's not all bra-burning and rants!xxx

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    1. This is so true, people need to realise that the forbidden f-word isn't so bad after all!
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  6. Love this post, I share such similar views to you - in fact, my views on feminism have inspired my dissertation for uni! x

    www.witty-woman.com

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    1. That's great, I always feel like I'm a bit alone with my views, but writing this has definitely opened my eyes to all the other feminists out there! :) x

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  7. Can't believe I hadn't already read this one but yes, highest of fives to you! Feminism and female equality is about having the space to choose what we want whether that's kitchen aids, armpit hair or lady loving. And no, we're nowhere near having achieved it yet!
    M x

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